Nothing past 7/22 yet
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I still have not seen a referral past 7/22.
I wish I could understand why the CCAA thinks that secrecy is so important. There are agencies who spoke with the CCAA last night or the night before and were told there is no information. And yet, they received referrals today, so they were told this after referrals had been mailed. Why would the CCAA lie to them? What could it hurt to let families know as soon as there is information to know?
When we did this before I never felt that the CCAA had an antagonistic relationship with waiting families... but during this adoption I feel very much like this is the case. I wish I knew of a way to change that.
And now I'm going to go back into a dark room and cry some more. One week of referrals just hurts. My heart hurts. I mean, it physically hurts. This is not just an emotional hurt. I wish the CCAA could understand what we are going through.
When I am through feeling sorry for myself I will look to see about changing hosts to one that can handle 700 people in a ten second period of time.
I still have not seen a referral past 7/22.
I wish I could understand why the CCAA thinks that secrecy is so important. There are agencies who spoke with the CCAA last night or the night before and were told there is no information. And yet, they received referrals today, so they were told this after referrals had been mailed. Why would the CCAA lie to them? What could it hurt to let families know as soon as there is information to know?
When we did this before I never felt that the CCAA had an antagonistic relationship with waiting families... but during this adoption I feel very much like this is the case. I wish I knew of a way to change that.
And now I'm going to go back into a dark room and cry some more. One week of referrals just hurts. My heart hurts. I mean, it physically hurts. This is not just an emotional hurt. I wish the CCAA could understand what we are going through.
When I am through feeling sorry for myself I will look to see about changing hosts to one that can handle 700 people in a ten second period of time.
posted by RumorQueen at 8/24/2006 06:15:00 PM
13 Comments:
Big hugs, RQ. Thank you for all you do for us.
RQ:
My heart goes out to you. I wish I had something encouraging to say, but the behaviour of the CCAA is making that impossible. I even feel sorry for the agencies today and they havent gotten a lot of my sympathy so far.
The one bright light in this I think, is yourself and the community of people who have surrounded you. I know it helps many of us who have been or are going through this to not feel alone. Hopefully it is providing you with some solace as well.
Regards,
RQ - you are THE BOMB, girlfriend!
There aren't words to convey what it means to ALL of us out here who count on you to toe the line for us. Take a deep breath.
RQ, you work so hard for all of us and I don't know if you know how much we appreciate it or maybe we don't let you know enough. You are giving us a service that keeps us going from one day to the next without going crazy. Sometimes I think we get so wrapped up in wanting to hear something about "OUR" babies and when are "OUR" referrals coming that we forget that you are waiting to hear good news about when you will be getting your baby too. I just want you to know that I appreciate you and I know that at least 700 others do too. Heres a Big HUG for you. Maybe its Group HUG time. We are all in this together. We are the only ones who understand and know what we are going through and when one or more of us gets down the others will be here to hold us up. LID 7/28/06
I agree with RQ - I too feel the CCAA has an antagonistic attitude. I have felt this way for a while, even though this is our first time adopting from China.
Why can't they have some kind of sympathy/understanding that people have their hearts and souls invested in these babies - our whole future families depends on their motions and I am getting sick of it.
Words cannot express how much this news hurts and is so madenning. I don't think we will ever get our referral. LID 12/20/05
Make that 7/28/05
Oh, RQ. I was in tears at work last time when the referrals only went through stinkin' July 13th, so my heart really goes out to you. I know how you feel. You will feel better tomorrow, as once again we all pick ourselves up and dust off. They are not going to throw us off and we WILL get our babies. Also, I still want to hold a tiny hope that these might be some of the matched people from last month and there might be another batch coming still. I know...grasping at straws. I'm not emotionally able to accept the 22nd as it until next month. I just can't. LID 9/29
Group hugs work for me. RQ, we love ya' girl. Thanks for all you do and may I suggest that you have a nice big chocolate martini to take the edge off a bit. If it wasn't for you and your blog and forum well I.....I'd be probably locked up somewhere in some looney bin. I don't know how you do it. I am in awe of you.
Now for that group hug. If you haven't been over to NOvary's blog today you should hurry on over there. Her joy comes screaming through and her latest post is funny as hell. It takes the edge off of this slightly.
which makes me think, if they will hide info or lie about this, why not about the whole comment about things remaining at 12 months??? maybe a lie is a lie, no matter how big. so discouraging.
Did I hear my girl Sparky say something about a chocolate martini?
This is too frustrating for words. I just checked the CCAA and realized that the cut off is 7/22. I am LID 8/11 and was counting on getting my match end of September, which seems crazy. Now that doesn't even seem possible. i am sitting at work with tears welling up in my eyes. How does everyone handle this?
We are LID 06/23/06 for a waiting child. Has anyone heard anything about SN TAs?
I would like to send out some positive energy for all the individuals in so mauch pain waiting for referrals, TAs, everything.
Some are now saying that because of the Olympic, CCAA might speed things up. I was really depress when I used the calculator to find out when could be my referral date... My LID is march 20, 2006. Help to see that I am not the only one going crazy. If that continue, her room will have to be repaint... :)
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